Our imaginations can do crazy things and are usually (in my experience, always) worse than the reality. It’s about them, even if it is your executive. Here are 5 tips for understanding and handling ghosts. The bottom line is that it does not feel good to have a promising conversation, or open a door or expect information that we need, only to have the person we spoke to turn into a ghost and go radio silent. The pandemic has put added pressure on our precious 24 hours of each day and it is showing in all kinds of ways. Rather, it is about the other person’s lack of time, focused attention, and consciousness, which hopefully, is temporary.
Experience teaches us that 9 times out of 10, the radio silence is not about you at all. So, when we spend time cultivating relationships and working on meaningful connections, the one thing I know for sure is, to not respond to someone is not something you want to do. We are juggling and busy doing real-time triage on our priorities, and in no way mean to intentionally hurt feelings. The given is that most of us are overwhelmed and find it challenging to keep up the demands of the day to day of life and work. However, there are some situations when the reality is different than what it seems. Plus…people remember when you ghost them, don’t we?
The feelings are ones of being ignored and forgotten, which in most cases, are bad feelings and ones that do not promote great relationships. Have you ever been in an email correspondence with someone and it just stops with no explanation? Or, you are looking for new work and in communication with recruiters, you suddenly get the silent treatment? If you answered yes, then you know how radio silence feels, otherwise known as ghosting. (N ote: To get along with Bonnie Low-Kramen, don’t ignore her.) What I also have to admit, though, is that I’ve done it too. We remember those whose lives have been lost through war.True confession. We pray for all those whose lives have been affected by war. Use your usual form of address ('Dear God' etc) and: They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:Īge shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.Īt the going down of the sun and in the morning You could read some of the words from the poem 'For the Fallen' by Laurence Binyon that are traditionally used in Remembrance services: